Its day 1 for many people in this organization. Why wouldn’t that be? They are through the college life with flying colors, got placement offers to join the organizations that becomes the beginning for their new career. It’s a different road for them, different yet exciting.
As I looked around the training room full of fresh, straight out of college faces, I couldn’t help but notice a group taking selfies, a bunch of girls giggling and planning for weekend getaways and guys discussing politics. Let me stress here that it’s Day 1 for most of them.. And I am wondering, “Is it really”?
Still analyzing the thought and then memories of my twenty something flashed back.
Twenty something people don’t think too much while taking a step. I never did when I had people around me. I remember making a weekend plan with a friend with who I hardly used to speak during office hours and for me it wasn’t a date. Not sure if the guy took it like that and I couldn’t really figure out as I didn’t get a chance to catch up with him later. But random dates with random people was normal and thought of taking life seriously wasn’t.
Lately I heard people saying that “30’s is the new 20’s”. I have this quote stuck in my head ever since.
Is it really true? Or are we playing with numbers to make ourselves feel younger?
I thought for a while and then took my laptop to write about it. Yea! That’s how I get inspiration to write and clearly this wasn’t the case when I was in my twenties.
To make myself clear, I want to highlight that I have recently completed my 30th birthday which makes me an expert in 20’s something section but still novice for 30 something one.
So here I am ready to write about one of the most interesting things I have come across recently. I hope you are able to relate to few topics, by the time you reach the end of the blogpost.
Our twenties is all about experiences and crossroads. That pathetic relationship which made us vulnerable eventually leaving us with tears, that heart aching breakups, the unforgettable trips to markets, those budget friendly shopping, the confusing statements about better career choices, always wanting more, figuring out our purpose and many other tit bits.
In your later twenties things start to get more precise than what it was before. When you hit your 30’s you suddenly realize or maybe start to realize what you really want to do. This wasn’t clear in a younger age with limited experiences.
I remember not giving any thoughts to what is that I love doing. I just went with the crowd. Someone suggested training is where you should make your career, quoting flexibility benefits, and that was enough for me to get influenced. My friends of similar age group were no different.
As you get older you start to realize that your work isn’t fun anymore, there is less value in what you do, and you don’t feel like getting up feeling excited for the office.
It changes your perspective altogether. You want to do something that you love and you never had the courage to take the step. It only gets clearer with age and experiences.
Taking risks even with style was terrifying. “What would people think” was the fear that kept us away from uncovering our true self. Isn’t it?
As you gain experiences in life, you transition into a phase of “ I don’t care”. What matters is the rush of emotions when you do what you always wanted to do. Every other person’s thoughts suddenly doesn’t hold any value.
We start wondering if it’s the attitude that attracts wrong people in our lives or it’s just pure bad luck.
Thirties is all about using all those experiences and putting them to good use. You stop pleasing people and start asking your opinion about anything you want to do. Suddenly you become the most important person in your life and for me that’s the best relationship.
Ask any 20 something person (preferably in their early 20’s) to take breaks alone, eat alone, watch movie alone, or go for a walk alone. I am sure their eyes will roll on this question.
Taking a break from a hectic work, ditching a gossip session for a cup of coffee and your favorite book is a thing that reminds us that we are approaching or have reached out thirties. My realization on finding solace with myself has not only made me independent but powerful too. And why wouldn’t that be? I don’t need a relationship to rely on for myself. I just need myself.
We don’t realize that it our twenties. Honestly many people don’t even realize this in their thirties too. I happen to become the lucky one who understood that every step is shaped up with better opportunities in future. Nothing is coincidence.
Honestly I have been asking this question to myself always but I could never respond like the way I do now. A simple one word reply, “Yes” or “No” and sticking to it.
Experience makes you a smart person isn’t it.
It’s easier to fall in love when we are young. Somehow there are more flings more crushes and more tours and travel services to the dreamland of home sweet home. Every guy you have a crush on is looked from a perspective of future husband or wife.
It’s the priorities that take a different route.
Suddenly we decide to become who we are instead of pretending to change ourselves. Comfort takes over pretence and a watching movies in pajamas and popcorn becomes the ideal date. A person who lets you be “you” is the most charming thing that you could ever think about.
With all the points, I would want to revise the quote. It should be “Thirty is the new wise twenty” and with this I close the note.